Do you trust yourself? Really and truly?
Last week we talked about love, which sent us into a tail-spinning direction of talking about trust.
Do you trust yourself? Really and truly trust yourself?
That means no doubts, no questions. Pure trust.
And then if we extend that out, do you trust others? Do you trust your partner?
And then if we push that out a bit more, do you trust the universe or the world around you? An easy option would be to simply say, “ya, sure, I do that.”
Are you being real? Are you being honest with yourself? It is easy to identify whether you trust someone external to you and particularly with a partner.
These are not easy questions to answer. So let’s start with the first question, how do we know if we are actually trusting ourselves throughout the day?
Try taking one day from the very start to the very end and observing your thoughts.
Simple observation. Using that same love we talked about before. When we start criticizing ourselves for our thoughts, we can turn our own selves in a tail-spinning direction of derogation.
So, if you take one day to simply observe your thoughts, what would happen?
What you may find, is that you doubt quite a bit. Not just yourself, but others. What you may also find is that you try to justify your doubt.
Well, it’s there because that person has never been someone I could trust. Do you trust yourself to know the difference between someone you can trust versus someone you can’t? There is reason to determine whether a person can be trustworthy. We need that appraisal for our survival
You may also notice you have thoughts such as, “should I do this or should I do that? Does that person really mean it when they say…?” And so on. If you want to take this one step further, try taking a day where you address those doubt-ridden thoughts.
Remember no judgment or criticism. When a doubt-ridden thought comes up, ask yourself, do I really need this? Does it really matter? What if I were to just say I trust.
Not trusting that others and the world around you will be what you want them to be, but trusting that they are doing exactly what they need to be doing in that time and moment.
This would also be without expectations and without judgement of what others are doing. We are all in this world at this point in time doing the best we can possibly do.
Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have. What if we were to say, “we trust. We trust in ourselves, each other, and the universe. Each and every moment of each and every day,” we embody trust.
If nothing else, maybe give it a try for a day or too and see what happens. Because we all deserve our own trust.
Let’s step out from the shadow of doubt and give that shadow one giant hug of love. And say:
I trust you doubt. I trust that you’re going to doubt, because that’s what you do best. And I’m going to try something a bit different doubt. I’m going to try trust. And I’m going to trust that I will fail sometimes, and I will fall sometimes. And it will all be okay, because I’m doing the best I can.